Motion Neurosis

January282013

(hell, yeah) Scarleteen: When Sex "Just Happened" (And How to Make It Happen Instead)

“It just happened.”

There’s a big meme in a lot of our cultures that says that sex is only hot when it feels like it just happened to us and our partners; when throughout, there’s a sense of wild abandon, a lack of control, an effortlessness, or when someone is being, or feels like they’re being, taken or surrendered in some way.

Some of that meme is crap, and some of it is even bullshit of the worst possible kind: the kind that enables and excuses rape and other abuse, that presents sex or sexuality as something that is out of everyone’s control and which we all need to be afraid of, a collective vulnerability some big groups have exploited throughout history — and are still exploiting now, and boy howdy, do you know about that if you’re a young person — to socially control or oppress people.

Holy crap am I glad someone wrote this!

June182012

FUCK YEAH FAT DYKES: Racism at Lincoln Hall and One Queer Roof

fuckyeahfatdykes:

I want to be clear about the story we are telling. We were not allowed into Lincoln Hall because we used the word “racist” to the bouncer and that made two white men uncomfortable, intimidated, angry, spiteful and refused to accept the term deemed for a racist. In order for me to break down the…

May22012

youngmetropoly:

Note: The events outlined (being hit after trying to give advice, the trip and subsequent outburst, freak-out over books/relationship advice, the passive-aggressive behavior, and bad spin-doctoring after the fact) actually did happen. The only part of this that hasn’t been confirmed is the reason behind someone suddenly becoming unavailable on GChat. However, they did go from being online/available/talkative to suddenly not, and then started telling others that they were being ‘excluded’.

*Clears Throat*

This shit is why you don’t see many polyamrous people who are publicly “out” to their friends.

Especially polyamorus women. We are shamed for being open and honest about our sexuality, even if we make an effort to act ethically. If we show confidence in ourselves - our bodies and our natures - our actions of friendship, compassion, and companionate love are perceived as being sexually motivated. And by sexually motivated I mean “steal a man” predatory.

Doesn’t it cross anyone’s minds that some poly people may actually like seeing their friends in healthy, stable, happy relationships, whether monogamous or multiple? And that we worry and care when those relationships become rocky and want to give emotional support as needed and ethically allowable?.

I’m really tired of staying quiet on this issue, so I am posting my thoughts and feelings here. Feel free to like it or reblog/share it. I know that I am not the only polyamorous person that has been “caught in the crossfire”, nor am I the first. My hope is that by opening up the topic, we can learn to stand up for ourselves and our reputations.

BTW - I’m not @BadPolyAdvice… they are just uber-awesome at posting snarky tweets :D

February182012

vegandbeat:

da hugs

da kisses

(Source: valleygrrrlintellegencia, via cubananarchist-deactivated20121)

11PM

tatteredbanners:

In Norse mythology, Ratatoskr (Old Norse, generally considered “drill-tooth” or “bore-tooth”) is a squirrel who runs up and down the world tree Yggdrasil to carry messages between the unnamed eagle, perched atop Yggdrasil, and the wyrm Níðhöggr, who dwells beneath one of the three roots of the tree. Ratatoskr is attested in the Poetic Edda, compiled in the 13th century from earlier traditional sources, and the Prose Edda, written in the 13th century by Snorri Sturluson

(via earthmagick)

February172012